Combating expectations as young Christians

Society says as young people we are lazy, naive, rebellious, and followers not leaders. The world does not expect much from us as young people and that has transferred over to the church. We are told we need to follow other's examples not be the examples. The bible has very different things to say, and I'm hoping as a young christian myself at 22 years old I can help other young Christians strive to be leaders not followers, to be servants not those who are served, to find worth in God's eyes not the world's eyes. 1 Timothy 4: 12 says, "Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity."



About me: My name is Caleb I am 22 years old and I recently graduated from Pepperdine University. I am not a young person who has been rejected by society so I am lashing out, quite the opposite. I found myself in college to be a part of the world, I drank, I partied, I went on spring break trips to Mexico, I was in a fraternity, I even modeled professionally in LA for a while. What I realized is that some where along the way I had succumbed to the World's expectations of what a college student should be and put God on the back burner. My mind set was that I had time to be a good Christian and an example when I was older, I realize now that there's no better time to serve God and be an example then the now. I have rededicated my life to Christ and helping young people do the same. I am a pseudo college intern at my church and can't wait to see the way God will challenge me.

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A glimpse into my life

I want to talk about something that happened to me about 8 or 9 months ago. I know I talk a lot about dating and what not and I have mentioned being the person now that you want to be for your future spouse when you meet them. For me that means being the leader in all aspects, especially spiritually, for my future wife, if God intends me to have one, right now and not having to change later. I guess this stuff never really hits home until you go through it.

I was in the midst of my partying stage, more like the height of it, 2nd semester senior year of college. There was this girl I went to a sorority formal with that I had developed a pretty good friendship with. That night I started to notice how awesome of a girl she was, great Christian girl, good sense of humor, fun, and incredible personality not to mention very pretty. At the end of the night after having awesome chemistry I went in to kiss her (something that had come to not mean much to me) and she stopped me and said she couldn’t. My response was that’s fine, but why? She gave me an answer that shot me right to the heart, she said you have a player reputation and I am not the girl to kiss a guy without it meaning anything. I have never been so taken a back by what a girl has said to me. If you know me, you know that I have always been a good guy, very respectful of women, but had somehow allowed myself to get this reputation. I don’t know if she realized it then, but she really started me on my transformation to where I am now. After that I hung out with her a few times genuinely interested in pursuing something more but understood my chances were ruined. I had blown it because of my selfishness.

What she said to me made me realize I needed to be the guy I wanted to be for my wife now, so that I could attract the right kind of girl. Genuine Christian girls, the kind I want to attract, are going to want a man to be a spiritual leader for them, and I wasn’t at the time. So many times we think we will change later or change somebody for that matter, but the thing is if you want that awesome Christian spouse, you have to be that awesome Christian person first. When she said that to me it honestly made me mad at myself for not being that Christian man, because I had ruined something that could have been great, a relationship that hypothetically could have been built on the right foundations that placed God first. Be that person now! Be that person you want to be when you’re married, and be it NOW.

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